does anyone here have friends that were never one of jehovah's witnesses that knows about your activity on these types of internet sites and the stuff you communicate here?.
Yup, I have showed it to many "worldly friends" and they are glad there is an outlet for those of us who are comming out of the cult to share experiences and help each other! I have to give an acronym/vocabulary lesson to those reading such as what PO, WBT$, and such, they think our language is very interesting....
CHG
most of us here know what a hypocritical, backstabbing bunch of gossips many of the jw's tend to be.
far too often, a jw wont tell you to your face what's eating them, but they'll sure tell others.
when i started waking up (the second time around) this made me very paranoid.
unfortunately since I am out of the Borg I am not privy to hearing the juicy rumors about me. I do have a friend that was DF'd a couple of years back when I was still in & people were saying that she was sleeping around with the town "cops" and hanging out in bars and obviously on drugs because she was getting so skinny. Maybe she was getting skinny because of all the hell she was going through being hounded and kicked out, loosing her kids to the Borg (they opted to go live with a JW cousin because they were afraid of her new boyfriend). Idiots!!!!!
I think about looking her up once in a while but I have no idea where she moved too...pity
Welcome Vampire!
CHG
i want to introduce myself.
i'm a 28 year old active, married jw from belgium.
in the preceding months (i'd say starting from about march) i've been slowly losing my faith.
Welcome- I identify with your dilema, I am one year into my fade and I refuse to write a DA letter (even though the elders insisted that I do). You will experience some fallout at first when you stop going to meetings...you must form a simple to recite "broken record" response to all questions posed by elders and family..."I have made my decision, I am leaving" was my broken record response, they eventually got the hint that I wasn't talking about it because I did not want to leave myself in a position where I would be DF'd. Things will cool off a bit after they forget about you... until CO visits come around.
Best of luck to you!
CHG
i did not know where to start, but figured the personal experience section was a good place to begin.
won't bore you with all the particulars today....but i was raised in "it" (wont call it the truth, cause it ain't) from about 1968. baptized in 1985, faded about 2001.....woke up from the insanity after reading ray franz forbidden book a few years ago(crisis).
only sorry i did not read it earlier....but there was that fear factor instilled in me.
Welcome!!!! Robert O'Dell, thats a CO blast from the past...yes I remember him well, he was in our circuit when I was a young one....but i remember being scared sh**less of him...he questioned me about bible doctrine at a sunday WT study in front of the whole cong when I was about 10....I apparently replied correctly but that was torture to a little kid.
Hope to hear more about you, I am celebrating my 1 yr anniversary of quitting going to meetings :) I'm interested in hearing how your "fade" has gone
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and how far apart were they?.
thanks.
2 x (neither were JW) first time was about 2 years ago (for me it was kinda love at first sight), and now currently am in love again, this one is much deeper and more secure feeling- life is funny ain't it???
CHG
well since i cant grow a beard, dont have the patience for dread-locks, and do not want anything permanent like a tatoo yet..... i enjoyed the experience, never been in a tatoo parlor, this looks understated, not painful & everyone hates my new nose "glitter" which i find kinda funny.
i don't see it being a permanent thing with me, but i always wanted one, and you never know if you don't try..... just one more step in the independent direction of making my own choices-.
btw i also registered to vote last week!.
Wantstoleave- go figure, well I go tonite to stay with Dad while Mom is at convention & take him to get kidney dialysis- it will be an interesting experiment to see if he notices it at all, lol.
jwfacts- never heard of a guy getting a navel pierced either, there were sisters I heard rumor of getting navel piercings because you could hide them...did you get a tatoo or additional piercing after leaving the Borg??
CHG
hi everyone i regularly go onto the topix website and on one thread this was said earlier today.. found on facebook this morning:.
"at our service meeting it was announced that there is a change in the manner in which magazines are now to be delivered to the congregations.. .
up until now, magazines were sent to each kingdom hall via ups.
alanv,
In the US (Michigan anyway), when my ex-husband was a ministerial servant he and I would drive up to the assembly hall to collect the boxes of magazines from a garage behind the assembly hall- we did that for years & I don't know how long before that the brothers had been doing it that way....Yes, it was a gas expense..& a big time waster (an hour drive each way for us). We would use the occasion to go out to eat and try to make a date of it sometimes. But that was 5 years ago...so much has changed for me since then & I've been out for about a year now...
CHG
this afternoon i got a letter stating that i was accepted to accompany a ww 2 veteran on a flight to washington dc to visit the ww2 memorial in september.. www.honorflight.org.
i also was called to check up on the health of several horses that some friends of my wife adopted, they are very underweight belgians, and these.
new owners want to make sure that they are taken care of.
Your post brought a tear to my eye, (maybe I'm just over-emotional today) but I hope I can eventually get to that mental place where I can freely volunteer because I really want to & do it- not for the hours to report on a time slip-or not just to count down the morning- or look good to others- but...because it its the right thing to do to contribute to improving the human condition
I indentify much with Troubled Mind- I have been having a hard time finding something that I have a passion for; that will make my life more fulfilling- good luck to you!
Thanks for sharing MIB, I love dog stories too :)
well since i cant grow a beard, dont have the patience for dread-locks, and do not want anything permanent like a tatoo yet..... i enjoyed the experience, never been in a tatoo parlor, this looks understated, not painful & everyone hates my new nose "glitter" which i find kinda funny.
i don't see it being a permanent thing with me, but i always wanted one, and you never know if you don't try..... just one more step in the independent direction of making my own choices-.
btw i also registered to vote last week!.
Thanks everyone!
Wantstoleave- wow, where I live there was a bible study who had a nose piercing and they would not let her advance to baptism unless she removed it. I also know another active witness who got a nose ring because she knew of witnesses in India who had them and it wasn't a problem- the elders pressured her big time...she removed it.
I guess it just depends on the area you live...
I havent shown it to any JWs yet they are all at convention this week...I'm sure my mom will be discusted, don't know if she will say anything out loud though...ah well
mine's was, if your job interfere with the meetings you have to decide who you will choose,.
serving jehovah or serving man, if anyone knew my needs it most definitely was jehovah.
and he knew i needed my job to eat.
My JW husband took off and left me holding the bag of cars, our house, & credit card bills ($90,000 that there was no way I could pay for & the items were repo'd) & I wanted to get a divorce....
the elders told me "don't do that now, you just need to wait on Jehovah & be patient for things to work out"
A year later, the mortgage company and car loan people were going to take me to court & garnish my wages- I got my divorce & declared bankrupsy- made me a marked person but that year of agony was the worst advise ever- why did I think they were qualified to be my financial planners?????
CHG
